Archive for February, 2011

A Good Cause is Not the Same as a Good Program

February 22, 2011

Dan Pallotta’s recent column for Harvard Business Review calling on charities to start treating their donors as intelligent adults made me want to stand up and cheer. And in rising up to meet his challenge, I am here to tell you a hard truth. That truth is: most of you are doing a terrible job picking charities to receive your hard-earned money and carry the torch of your ideals.

As a person who makes social change their full-time profession, I am often frustrated that big-hearted individuals hear about the mission of a charity and say “isn’t that a wonderful charity?”

Let me be clear: it is impossible to know whether a charity is good or bad, wasteful or efficient, simply by reading its mission statement. Why do I say this?

First, because I know that a mission statement is a statement of intentions, not a statement of accomplishments. A “good cause” is not the same thing as a “good program.” And we all have good intentions but the inconvenient truth in social change work is that Good Intentions Are Not Enough.

Think of the well-meaning missionaries whose desire to “save” children from post-earthquake Haiti almost resulted in loving parents and their children being permanently separated.

Or the recent effort by World Vision to send 100,000 misprinted Super Bowl champion t-shirts to people in the third world, improving their own overhead ratios by claiming the value of these gifts-in-kind as program expenses, while in reality sending goods that are readily available even to poor people in the target geographies, widely accepted by the aid community as having the effect of undermining local businesses and creating a culture of dependency, and otherwise causing harm to the very communities they purport to help.

Or consider the Battered Mother’s Resource Fund that never actually implemented any programs it was fundraising for and potentially scared women away from seeking help by falsely claiming that many shelters separate mothers from their children. It was also proposing a children’s ranch that experts said would do great psychological harm to kids if it were ever built. Despite the fact that it was ordered to shut down by the Attorney General, this organizations still has a profile on Change.org, with 30 well-intentioned supporters. I bet those supporters read the mission statement and said “that’s a worthy cause.”

You know, they’re right: it IS a worthy cause. But it’s not a worthwhile program. This idea that different women’s shelters  are doing radically different things, some of which might be actually harmful to women, is something we don’t often consider. But the same thing is true for all kinds of charities.

Some jobs programs help people spiff up their resumes and place them in dead end jobs. Others provide holistic training to prepare them for a lifetime of success in a new career. Sadly, some don’t even know what results they’re getting because they are too busy playing with allocation of costs to make their “overhead ratio” as low as possible.

As a person with good intentions, what can you do? You can pick an issue, and learn about it.  In fact, I insist on it. Don’t give to any organization that asks just because it’s a “good cause.” Don’ t give thinking “What’s the harm? What’s the worst that could happen?”  If you know nothing about that cause, that issue, that organization, you can be actually doing harm, as the examples above illustrate. Withholding your donation when you don’t know what you’re doing is as important a moral act as giving when asked.

The father of a childhood friend of mine used to say “Don’t be so open-minded that your brains fall out.”

Happy Generosity Day!

February 14, 2011

Don’t feel bad if you bought a Hallmark card today. You’ve been conditioned your whole life to think of Valentine’s Day as a day to buy things in order to express your affection.

But maybe you’re starting to catch on to the false kind of love that is packaged and commodified by corporations. So let’s “reboot” Valentine’s Day as Generosity Day. I’ll let my friend Sasha Dichter, originator of this idea, explain:

“This Monday, Valentine’s Day, is going to be rebooted as Generosity Day: one day of sharing love with everyone, of being generous to everyone, to see how it feels and to practice saying “Yes.” Let’s make the day about love, action and human connection–because we can do better than smarmy greeting cards, overpriced roses, and stressed-out couples trying to create romantic meals on the fly.”

Sasha’s entire post, including suggestions for how to be generous today, can be found here.

And because love don’t cost a thing, I particularly urge you to be generous with your attention. Notice what’s going on around you, and give someone a genuine complement or words of encouragement. Really listen to the people who want to talk about their day without thinking about what you’re going to say next. If you’re in a conversation where you disagree with the other person, really try to understand where they are coming from and why they believe the things they do.

The sweet irony, of course, is that the more we are generous in giving of ourselves to others, the more we benefit and learn and grow as a human being.

And if you, like Sasha, want to extend this experiment because you like the way it feels, I encourage you to join the 29-Day Giving Challenge, where you will give a gift every day for 29 days. If you’re feeling down about life or love, moving outside of yourself by focusing on all the ways you can help others is guaranteed to lift your spirits.


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